How people you love fail you…

Sometimes its hard to believe that the people you love the most are really not the way you always perceived them to be. It comes as a shock but many a times you just repress this sad emptiness and resume back to normal. But somewhere at the back of your mind you know therez certain reality checks you have come across.
The best way to check for those who really love and care for you is to see how well they deal with your absence and silence. And thats the best time to realise whether you are genuinely loved and valued or whether you have been literally wasting your time,love and emotions on someone who never really cared. Sometimes amidst all the efforts you take by going out of your way,you need to slow down,step back,fold your arms and see whether you are being appreciated for it or whether you are doing it only for the sake of the image that you hold for that person. Many of the times one will find that people close to our hearts will never really step forward to take any efforts to make up with you,and when time amd again such things happens its better to move on. Its hard,its tough,its sad. But one has to do it as you are never meant to waste tears on anyone who doesnt value you. Had they loved you enough,you would have known ! And when your own people fail you in life then the journey with them ends then and there 🙂 sometimes even involuntary u should become strong hearted and independent 🙂 The love never ends,but the relation does.

Body Shaming…an evil in itself !!

Ever got the thoughts in your mind while looking at someone else that you need to have that kind of a body figure? Or ever saw someone and thought why he/she looked the way they are? The answer mostly would be yes ofcourse…as we all do that or have done sometimes.
So whats body shaming then? Its rightly defined as inappropriate negative statements and attitudes towards other person weight or size. It can also reach into discrimination against individuals who may be overweight.
We have always seen people around us using derogatory words and labels towards people who are fat or skinny. Why? Are they less of a human? Or we have trained our mind to just focus on the outer appearance and neglect the inner beauty? So this means that you’ll love a person who’s drop dead gorgeous on the outside given the fact that he/she is completely hollow from the inside?

A lot of bullying and self esteem issues revolves around our own body…due to one simple fact…We fail to accept it and love it the way it is.

Critically examining oneself by means of comparisons or passing unsuitable remarks at others leads to this issue of body shaming. There is evidence of cyber bullying as well. Its a common sight to find jokes on being too skinny or too fat/obese… These people are viewed as far less desirable by opposite sex than those who have normal weight. There is a general tendency for people to club positive traits with those people who are attractive and in good shape,than those who are not. Although there is no proven link between them as of now. Does being a person with normal weight make you more loving and caring than others? Or if you are more attractive will it mean you have higher IQ levels?
These notions of body shaming are more prevelant in countries where zero size figures are promoted and preferred such as the USA etc. There are higher chances of people indulging in eating disorders like anorexia nervosa or bulimia…
So much trolling occurs on social networking sites like Facebook,Twitter,Instagram etc. People comment on how overweight women cannot wear bikinis or flaunt their body,or how thin men and women look like stick or hanger which makes them less desirable.
You’ll find how common it is for people to make fun of actresses post pregnancy. How easy to that isnt it? My post is more women centric as the main target of this issue are women as compared to men if rated on intensity and frequency scale and are more susceptible to it.

All this has a greater impact on our mind especially those of the adolescents where they create a negative self image of themselves. How very neglected and insensitive we are towards this topic. Only the one experiencing it can tell the pinching feeling of these negative remarks and its deep seated impact.

Did you ever ponder upon this idea that maybe it took years and lots of encouragement for a person to get comfortable and used to with who they are and when they tried putting a brave front by posting a pic just to see if they are confident enough to do so and suddenly all their built confidence and hopes are shattered by some indecent and not so valuable comments.

Why isnt it taught in great detail how important it is for us to first start respecting our own selves before moving on to others? Why isnt it taught to us to be comfortable with who we are even if all others are behind you,criticising? Why cant we proudly beam at our reflection in the mirror and be happy? Why cant we beam at others and be accepting of them even if they weigh a 100kg? Why do we just form judgements with the way that person looks? WHY? Who are we to set the limits and decide what beauty is… How beautiful the world would have been if our eyes appreciated others by looking at their soul and not their protective shell,their body. Atleast people would not have feelings of guilt,frustration,insecurities,isolation,low self esteem and negative self image due to body shaming.

When you look at your loved one,do you stop loving him/her just because of their looks and body type? No. Do you pass the same remarks to them that you can think of easily passing on to others without being hurt and wounded? No. While commenting do you ever stop and measure your words by tasting them before spitting? Are you yourself perfect? So who demarcated that thinness or being an obese is an imperfection…?
The body is not polluted or imperfect,its the mind. Train it to look at the brighter side. What if the person who you are criticising is completely okay with the way he/she looks…and does not need your free advice. Then what? Ever thought about not giving free advices always? Or situations when its not required? Maybe the person doesnt even know you and you are suggesting a diet chart… Why? No one asked for the insights right. Then why not help those build up confidence who once had but lost it…thanks to the free advisers… It will bring a change in the mindset,the society and would bring satisfaction to your own self.

These days an effort has been made to promote various brands by involving the plus size models which is indeed a great initiative as its about time that we break the schemas and stereotypes and move ahead by being at ease with our body type,without drawing any criticisms for the same. Different shapes and sizes adds to the beauty and variety. After all variety is the spice of life. Find the positives in you and lead a healthy life. Indulge in self love and also learn to accept others.

Dont judge a book by its cover. Dont judge people by their clothes. Dont judge a beautiful soul by the appearance of its protective body. Stop judging and start appreciating.

It is hard for Men to cry…

You must have heard these lines very often that “Real men dont cry”…
Till date i havent been able to understand the reason why… I should rather feel blessed that being a female i have the opportunity to shed my tears freely,whenever and wherever i want to and for whoever i wish to without any major criticisms and stigmas attached.
Although there is indeed a gender difference in terms of crying but we shouldnt fail to accept the fact that their is more cultural acceptance,tolerance and habituation towards woman’s tears than that of a man. The socialization techniques and child rearing practises adopted by parents is such that it explicitly and implicitly teaches men not to cry as crying is seen more of a feminine feature and a characteristic that might lower a man’s masculinity. Thus if a boy sheds a single tear, there would be hundreds of people behind him telling him to wipe it off before anyone sees it. In short men are taught to suppress their emotions, their feelings, their hurt and deep seated agony. Why? Because if they express it they’ll be weak,amateur,girlish,stupid and “not a man”. They’ll be told not to behave like a girl.

The irony is that when these boys grow up to become men who dont cry easily, and react less, they are thought to be less human than all of us…and are labelled as hard hearted,rational,practical and emotionless creatures. But dont forget this is the same society that is teaching them to be so. This does not mean that men dont feel or they dont get hurt when you give them rude comments…or that they dont get excited and care about you enough. They do. It just requires a bit more sensitivity and a caring heart to realise that he will forever fail to express,he’ll always be blunt and rude…,he’ll continue to show how mature and rational he is but at the end of the day even he is a human with the same blood and flesh like ours and a heart that seems hard but is actually pure gold. Someone who needs pampering and equal love but wont show. They do cry when they are alone,when no one is around…so whats the harm of accepting this harmless act in public? Why convert it into a private act that is otherwise considered shameful and embarassing?
A famous singer and song writer Andrea Bocelli once stated that “I dont like crying. I’m a country boy,and we’re the product of our upbringing. As a boy i was told that men do not cry”.

According to world crying expert, Professor Ad Vingerhoets of Tilburg University, women cry 30 to 64 times a year on average, compared to six to 17 times for men. Suppression and failure to expess emotions make one more prone to suicides. In India,according to WHO,the suicide rate is 16.4 per 100,000 for women and 25.8 for men.
Even worldwide it has become far more clear that men are more prone to suicide than women. In some countries like U.S and Ireland,men are approximately 4 times more likely to commit suicide than women.Over 90% of suicides are underpinned by mental health issues(depression,stress,anxiety) and an inability to communicate ones own problems to others and unable to find a solution for the same.

Men are forced to believe that they need to be independent,strong,responsible and autonomous… This is the society’s way of defining a man as a normal human being. Anyone who deviates from this accepted standard is shunned and criticised by the society.

What the society needs is a change of mindset. If men and women are walking the path of equality then there should be an equal acceptance of their emotional states. We need to realise the negative impacts of teaching young impressionistic minds to suppress their true feelings and pretend to be someone who they are not. Why to build such rigid schemas and stereotypes? Its time to break them and embrace the very simple idea that men can cry. To show them that there are people who’ll listen and understand them. We all have guys all around us be it your father,brother,husband,boyfriend,friend or anyone else. Why not help them to express who they are in the truest sense? To tell them that they would be loved and respected even if they cry… Help them realise that crying is not a sign of weakness…it simply shows that you feel and care. Its not bad to be sensitive.

Its the need of the hour to realise the importance of this topic as it affects ones mental,psychological,emotional and physical health. Dont let culture play with your emotions and make you a caged pigeon. Learn to fly by following the instructions of your brain but dont forget to take along your heart. Hug your valued man and tell him how special he is and that by being a bit more open he’s just making life more easy. Let them feel light hearted too.
After all we ought to see their cute crying faces all snorty and red faced for once in life.

Crying doesnt indicate that you are weak. Since birth it has always been a sign that you are alive 🙂 ❤
So,have a good cry and wash out your heart. If u keep it inside,it will tear you apart… 🙂

Communication Gap

Life is so ironic. It takes sadness to know happiness, noise to appreciate silence and absence to Value Presence….

Today’s generation is so very prone to breaking relations with the blink of an eye… For them its a child play. By saying this i am not denying the fact that they dont maintain or value relations but simply that its getting easy for people to forget their close ones and “move on”.
The root cause is the all time evil…Miscommunication or Communication Gap. This is true of every possible relation till date…be it husband-wife,girlfriend-boyfriend,parents and their children,brother and sister,friends and so on…as the list is endless.
When you love and care for someone,learn to keep your ego aside. Also learn to stop saying that the other one should take initiatives. Its beautifully said that while counting the stars you can actually lose the moon. Have you ever imagined how come its easy for you to forgive yourself even after making hundreds and thousands of mistakes but its so difficult for you to forget one mistake that your loved one makes?

We are living in the virtual world today where everything is available online…including people…like online chatting,finding your matched pairs through wedding sites,whatsapp and facebook just to name a few. The human touch and contact which is so important for us to maintain our relations is absent these days. We fight and argue and even decide to ignore and shut the person…but we dont try to call and meet for sorting out the same issues. Things and emotions pile up and and are never resolved.
In the battle between love and ego…let love win. You have someone who says I Love You almost daily? Or show them in their acts? KEEP THEM. It require guts and consistent feelings to do so… Not everyone can. Appreciate this and revert back in whatever ways possible. In todays time selfishness and self interest are the upperhands. In this darkness if you are getting hold of caring people then they are your very ray of light and hope. Dont shut them down. Embrace them with open arms. You never know which is the last moment you would be spending with your loved ones. They fight with u? So what? Why would someone spend their energy and tears if they dont love u? Stop,think and then understand why they are doing so. Its not worth to jump to conclusions many a times without giving a second thought. And dont form assumptions.

Follow these three rules always….1) accept when someone complains about you 2) dont argue or give unnecessary justifications…simply say sorry… 3) ask for solutions so that u dont repeat… And dont forget to say i love u.
Thats it. This way the one offended and hurt would feel better and respected and the problem would be sorted too. Always remember the key to any relation is communication. When you have been given the ability to speak so why not speak something good and build that up into something strong? Why let go of good people for silly and stupid misunderstandings? Why not say a simple sorry and I love you when you can? Why wait for the time when they have already left? Why let someone go to sleep with tears in their eyes? Why not call them once and simply say please sleep well,i am always with you…? Why stay silent and ignore when you can make that person feel special as he/she is a part of your own heart? Why not complement them for each thing they do for u? Why not take the responsibility to set their mood on track with your little efforts? WHY? Arent they those people you yourself love? Do answer the why parts for own yourself… For once learn to introspect.

So surprise whom you love with calls,visits,outings,small cute gifts and lovely messages daily… Click pics of every moment so that years later you can look back again and feel the happiness to relive the moment. Never lose a chance to enjoy… And never lose any opportunity to make them smile. For they smile…you would too.

So, Never leave a true relation when u see some faults… Be patient and realise that nobody is perfect…
Its affection that matters and not perfection.

When life changes…

What if i say we all are really lucky and blessed? Abstract statement? I know…. Let me share an incident… Being a student of Psychology, i recently visited a non profit organization where people with different problems,street children, those with MR(mental retardation), differently abled etc are given a proper place to stay,to eat,to sleep etc. There i met two brothers who have a rare disorder of Friedreich Ataxia…. They developed it at around 17-18 years of age and it is found only in boys that too 1 in 50,000. The organs, body parts starting from legs and hands begins to deteriorate and slowly it affects your heart, lungs etc. It doesn’t affect your brain, hence your cognitive processes remains intact.

They both are in about their early 40s. Both are bright and educated and have desires and aspirations like we do. Just imagine that life is going on normally, where your mother is running behind you with food of your choice, you are bright and happy, pampered kids,and everything is up-to date….just then you begin showing symptoms of one of the rarest disorders that has no definite cure and you find your bright life getting shattered as if entering a tunnel with no end to it. Its not only heart breaking but heart wrenching too. Today they are kept at a place where parents visit just once a month, these brothers cant carry out their basic self help skills with ease and need an attendant, cant even turn sides on bed and if they fall from their bed at night, they simply cry. I asked them if they like the food here to which they simply replied that there is no mother here to look after you and your taste buds. They value their parents and especially sister a lot…as they both wear a green band given by her, but then they cant meet them every now and then. In short they are robbed of their happiness and joy that has created a vacuum that just sucks their life’s motive day by day. The youngest brother is a quite chap and is tech-savvy but is unable to operate laptops as his fingers have curled up. Yet he pleads to be given a chance as he has that sparkling desire to atleast pursue one thing he loves in his typically hopeless life.The elder brother on the other hand is a loquacious person and has a passion for books, so he keeps on reading novels and requested one from me too. I left my number with him and in a joking manner told him how am sure he wont call me back. This one thought changed one aspect of his thinking. He thought about my dialogue and couldn’t sleep for 2 nights as since 5 yrs he never tried saving a number in his phone. My heart leaped with joy when till date i receive his calls….
After visiting here, i realised how precious our relations are. They don’t get anyone to talk to, to share their feelings and they have so much deep seated agony in their hearts which they haven’t easily let out. Yet one of them is so positive and optimistic and he wants to die with a smile on his face. A tear dropped from my eye which i was trying too hard to control…and their thoughts lingered on my mind for nights. The lesson i learnt is that of relations and life in general. When you have loving and caring people around you, VALUE THEM, feel blessed and make them feel special as they care for you daily. I value it more now because i have visited a place where people have just this one main wish that they get people to talk to and to have those around who can love and for care for them.

When you know there’s nothing but hopelessness and helplessness, yet you choose to smile….that’s when life begins 🙂

Hope this post gives you some insight into how blessed you are… Keep giving your suggestions. Happy Reading 🙂

Can You Keep A Secret ????

Emma Corrigan is a young woman in London, England. She is in a stable, but dull, relationship with the “perfect” man, and is currently attempting to climb the corporate ladder at Panther Cola, a multi-national cola company headquartered in London. Satisfied with life, she is thrown off-kilter when she mistakenly blurts out all of her inner secrets to a complete stranger on a plane when it hits turbulence and she believes she is going to die.

Emma believes that she is in the clear when she leaves the plane, as she is confident that she will never see that stranger again. However, when he shows up at work, and turns out to be the company’s founder, she is forced to come face-to-face with the man, her secrets, and the desire for her life to change.

Its an awesome book.I mean i was rolling on the floor with laughter.You`ll always find a smile on your face while reading this book.Telling all your secrets to a person whom u consider to be a stranger and then if he turns out to be your boss,then u can imagine the disaster.And moreover what if your secrets are revealed? I`ll rate it a 10/10…..its an awesome comedy novel and a must read by Sophie Kinsella.

I cant say that Emma is dumb but yes she is very sweet and funny and rather a bit clumsy in what she speaks….and u can understand that by knowing all her weird secrets.So again its a must read and i totally love Jack Harper,the person to whom she revealed all her secrets.He never misses any chance to remind Emma of all her secrets.So go and fetch the book as its light and worth reading…..Happy reading to all the bookaholics…..Do comment and ask any questions regarding this book.Feel free please. 🙂 So can  u keep a secret?????

My entry of the Color Coded Challenge(CCC)

Here are the list of all the novels which are required in the challenge.I have mentioned more than one just for fun. 🙂

1) Blue-The mystery of the blue train,Blue bloods series

2) Red-Little red riding hood

3) Yellow-Purple, Green and Yellow by Robert Munsch

4)Green-The Green Mile by  Stephen King

5)Brown-The Man in the brown suit

6)Black-Black Dawn of Night World and of Morganville Vampires,Black Coffee by Agatha Christie

7)White-Shades of white,Snow white and the seven dwarfs

8)Any Color-The Color Purple by Alice Walker

9)A book with a word that implies color-The boy in the striped pyjamas by John Boyne

Happy reading to all the bookaholics. 🙂

Do take part in this challenge.

Color Coded Reading Challenge

 Here are the rules: *Read nine books in the following categories.

1. A book with “Blue” in the title.

2. A book with “Red” in the title.

3. A book with “Yellow” in the title.

4. A book with “Green” in the title.

5. A book with “Brown” in the title.

6. A book with “Black” in the title.

7. A book with “White” in the title.

8. A book with any other color in the title (Purple, Orange, Turquoise, Pink, Magneta, etc.).

9. A book with a word that implies color (Rainbow, Polka-dot, Plaid, Paisley, Stripe, etc.).

* Any book read from January 1 through December 31, 2012 will count. *Crossovers with other challenges are fine.

*Everyone who completes all nine categories will be entered in a year-end drawing for a book-related prize package. *Please post about the challenge on your blog. Sign ups accepted until Nov 30, 2012. *Please sign up using the Linky below. Give your name & blog (Example: Bev @ My Reader’s Block) and use a direct link to your challenge post as your url. Please don’t connect to just your home page. *Please use the Review Page to post review links and a final wrap-up post when you finish the challenge.

Refer to this link for signing up.

I didn`t understand the 9 th part of this challenge.Kindly explain it to me if somebody knows about it.Thanks.

A single post of mine would include the names of all the novels with the respective colors.Happy reading to all the bookaholics,do sign up for this easy and interesting challenge. 🙂

The Da Vinci Code

The Louvre,Paris:the elderly curator of the museum has been violently murdered in the Grand Gallery.Harvard professor Robert Langdon is summoned to decipher the baffling codes which the police find alongside the body.As he and a gifted french cryptologist,Sophie Neveau,sort throught the bizarre riddles,they are stunned to find a trail that leads to the works of Leonardo Da Vinci-and suggests the answer to an old-age mystery that stretches deep in the vault of history.Unless Langdon and Neveu can decipher the labyrinthine code and quickly assemble the pieces of the puzzle,a stunning historical truth will be lost forever……..

An ingenious code hidden in the works of Leonardo da Vinci. A desperate race through the cathedrals and castles of Europe. An astonishing truth concealed for centuries . . . unveiled at last.
While in Paris, Harvard symbologist Robert Langdon is awakened by a phone call in the dead of the night. The elderly curator of the Louvre has been murdered inside the museum, his body covered in baffling symbols. As Langdon and gifted French cryptologist Sophie Neveu sort through the bizarre riddles, they are stunned to discover a trail of clues hidden in the works of Leonardo da Vinci—clues visible for all to see and yet ingeniously disguised by the painter.
Even more startling, the late curator was involved in the Priory of Sion—a secret society whose members included Sir Isaac Newton, Victor Hugo, and Da Vinci—and he guarded a breathtaking historical secret. Unless Langdon and Neveu can decipher the labyrinthine puzzle—while avoiding the faceless adversary who shadows their every move—the explosive, ancient truth will be lost forever.

If u`ll visit the Goodreads site then u wont get a good response.But i truly liked it.But i liked The Digital Fortress more than this.But not comparing these two would be better as they are totally different.I loved the way they both reach the end of the mystery but i didnt find the ending to be so good.But overall its a must read novel.Just because of a few ups and downs i dont think u can waste Dan Brown`s intelligent efforts.So i`ll give it a 9/10.There are some pictures given below which u`ll read about in the novel.I searched for them on the net,hence u`ll find them here.

The Painting of the Vitruvian Man-by Leonardo Da Vinci. This link is about the Fibonacci Series.

The painting The Last Supper by Leonardo Da Vinci.

                              This picture depicts the place of the Holy Grail under the inverted pyramid.Refer to the very last chapter of Da Vinci Code.

Madonna of the Rocks-Leonardo Da Vinci.

Mona Lisa by Leonardo Da Vinci.

We also have a movie based on the same tile The Da Vinci Code.If u have any questions related to this u can always ask me.Mainly the questions would be related to the Holy Grail.Do tell me how u found this book and tell me ur views on the same.Happy reading to all the bookaholics. 🙂

Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother

An awe-inspiring, often hilarious, and unerringly honest story of one mother’s exercise in extreme parenting, revealing the rewards-and the costs-of raising her children the Chinese way.

All decent parents want to do what’s best for their children. What Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother reveals is that the Chinese just have a totally different idea of how to do that. Western parents try to respect their children’s individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions and providing a nurturing environment. The Chinese believe that the best way to protect your children is by preparing them for the future and arming them with skills, strong work habits, and inner confidence. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother chronicles Chua’s iron-willed decision to raise her daughters, Sophia and Lulu, her way-the Chinese way-and the remarkable results her choice inspires.

            This is Sophia,Amy and Lulu(from L-R)
Here are some things Amy Chua would never allow her daughters to do:

  •   have a playdate
  •   be in a school play
  •   complain about not being in a school play
  •   not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama
  •   play any instrument other than the piano or violin
  •   not play the piano or violin.

Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother is an eye-opening exploration of the differences in Eastern and Western parenting- and the lessons parents and children everywhere teach one another.

Okay so the mother is way too hard for the girls in their upbringing.But i like this book.Actually i haven`t experienced any of the Chinese parents yet so i don`t know whether all of them are hard or just some.But i am saved as my mother is not that way.She scolds me but not shouts at me and stuff like that.So parents are different,some are easy some are tough,and some are very very very tough like Amy Chua.I`ll rate it a 9/10.But would not like if anyone gets a scolding like this even if its for the best.Are your parents especially ur mother like Amy? Do comment on it.Visit this link reading to all the bookaholics. 🙂

Anne Frank-The Diary of a young GIRL

Think of beauty still left around you and be happy…-Anne Frank

Discovered in the attic in which she spent the last years of her life, Anne Frank’s remarkable diary has since become a world classic—a powerful reminder of the horrors of war and an eloquent testament to the human spirit. In 1942, with Nazis occupying Holland, a thirteen-year-old Jewish girl and her family fled their home in Amsterdam and went into hiding. For the next two years, until their whereabouts were betrayed to the Gestapo, they and another family lived cloistered in the “Secret Annex” of an old office building. Cut off from the outside world, they faced hunger, boredom, the constant cruelties of living in confined quarters, and the ever-present threat of discovery and death. In her diary Anne Frank recorded vivid impressions of her experiences during this period. By turns thoughtful, moving, and amusing, her account offers a fascinating commentary on human courage and frailty and a compelling self-portrait of a sensitive and spirited young woman whose promise was tragically cut short.

I read this when i was in class 8.We were supposed to read this in our summer vacations.3 years later today i have again ordered this book.I am truly very small in rating this book as its not something for pleasure.It`s the bitter truth of past and how people suffered so much.This was actually not supposed to be a diary but Anne Frank`s father,a survivor of the war published this.Its an amazing diary of a little girl who died at a young age of 15.How jews were treated so badly.

This book is not just meant for reading but understanding as well.Jews are equal as all of us.Hence we should give them equal respect and love.Discrimination on these basis should be eradicated from the roots so that the world doesn`t has to face such kind of a horrendous past.See below the real pictures of Anne Frank`s memory….

So do read this book,its excellent.I`ll rate it a 10/10 because i simply loved it.Do tell me your views on this.Happy reading to all the bookaholics……. 🙂

And then there were none

Its a short review but it definitely explains all.First there were ten: a group of strangers invited to a private island, cut off from the rest of the world(which is quite scary), who have nothing in common – except a murderous past. Then there were none: one by one, an unknown person is killing them off(i really got confused with the end). They’re the only people on the island, so they must assume the murderer is one of them, and only the dead are above suspicion. Or are they? Agatha Christie’s chilling, thrilling mystery novel, And Then There Were None, will leave readers on the edge of their seats, turning the pages for more.

According to the survey,this is one of the best novels written by Agatha Christie,the queen of crime novels.I loved this novel as there were minimum characters and you could always be clear with them.But i didn`t understand the end,maybe i was not concentrated enough to notice who the murderer was,but yes when i read it again i understood that.Its a must read novel for all who love crime and thriller novels.

I`ll rate it a 9.5/10 as it kept me entertained and thrilled me till the end.Do read it and tell me how you found this book.According to me its a fantabulous book.So happy reading to all the bookaholics. 🙂


To Sir With Love

Rick Braithwaite is a young black man, born in South America, who just got out of the Air Force. Now in Britain, Braithwaite is looking for a career, mainly to pay for food, but things do not work out as planned. He comes to know the malady of prejudice very well, as he is turned down from job after job. Braithwaite describes feeling “caught like an insect in the tweezers grip of prejudice.” Teaching becomes the therapy to set him free. When Mr. Braithwaite took the job as a teacher, he did not expect his students to be barbaric savages. Braithwaite has a hard time as he counters the cynicism of his impressionable students and, now and then, that of his colleagues also. The difficulties he faces, in getting students to focus on aspirations in the future rather than the upcoming weekend are painfully true. The need for inventive and genuine approaches to these educational challenges is abundantly clear. Gradually, he wins over the minds of his students as he tries to wipe clean their minds of prejudices. With hard work and dedication, he turns this class of delinquents into a class of young men and women with class. The whole time, Mr. Braithwaite realizes that it is not his skin color that is holding him back, but his attitude. He reflects that, “At first it was terrible, but gradually I’m learning what it means to live with dignity inside my black skin.”

This book was again recommended by our school so we had to read it.But let me tell you,its an awesome read and u`ll all love it.The theme and background of this book is completely different from the other books i`ve read,so i really enjoyed it.The lesson from this story we get is that all people in this world are equal.We should not discriminate people on the basis on color or any other ideological background.Hence with this good thought in mind,i definitely recommend this book to all.I`ll rate it a 10/10 for how Rick found his way through the people whom he loved and who hated it and criticised him.Its by E.R Braithwaite.We also have a movie based on it,so you can even watch that.

Do read it and tell me your reviews.This is a question for all-Do u believe in racial discrimination? or have u ever witnessed any such thing? If yes do tell the reasons.Happy reading to all the bookaholics. 🙂

Love Story

Love means never having to say you`re sorry….He is Oliver Barrett IV,a rich jock from a stuffy WASP family on his way to a Harvard degree and a career in law……She is Jenny Cavilleri,a wisecracking,working-class beauty studying music at Radcliffe.Opposite in nearly every way,Oliver and Jenny immediately attract,sharing a love that defies everything.yet will end too soon.A love that will linger in your heart now and forever.

This is a novel with a sad ending,but its an excellent one.If our school would not have made it compulsory to read it,then i probably wouldn`t have read it.But its a must read novel.Its short and crisp and very sweet.I dont like the part when Jenny dies,but there are so many frivolous rebukes between them that you`ll always find the book very encouraging and lively.There are many sweet and romantic-comedy moments and u`ll love it.I would definitely recommend it to everyone.

I`ll rate it a 9/10.Its written by Erich Segal.Do read this novel and tell me your comments.Happy reading to all the bookaholics. 🙂

Murder on the Orient Express

A man called Ratchett is murdered on the Orient Express.
He turns out to be a gangster known as Cassetti, who
killed three members of the same family (the Armstrongs)
and one of their employees. A Belgian detective, Poirot,
investigates. There are many confusing clues, but
he eventually discovers that all the passengers and a
conductor are in some way connected to the Armstrong
family and twelve of them are guilty of the murder. Poirot
decides not to tell the police, however, presumably because
he believes they are justified in their actions.

This was my first novel by Agatha Christie.Thanks to our school that recommended us to read this as a supplementary reading book.This book is very complicated as it has a list of characters of which u`ll definitely lose a track if u do not write it down somewhere.But those with good memory dont need to.This book is excellent as it has many elements and definitely a lot of mystery,confusion and suspense.I find it as one of the best crime novels i have ever read.So i`ll rate it a 9/10.Do read it tell me ur reviews,dont be lazy to just press the like button and not comment. 🙂 So happy reading to all the bookaholics.





The Romance Reading Challenge 2012

I’ve been waiting for this challenge! It’s hosted by Naida at The Bookworm.

Without further ado, here are the rules:

1. The challenge runs from January 1st, 2012 through December 31st, 2012.

2. “Romance” isn’t limited to steamy Harlequin novels. There is a huge selection of books in this category such as contemporary romance, historical romance, romantic suspense and paranormal romance to name a few. As long as the story has romantic love between the two main characters your selection will fit this challenge. The novels do not need to have a happy ending either, there can also be unrequited love.

3. Choose at least 5 novels to read. You can change your choices at any time. Crossovers between other challenges are fine.

All kinds of books count such as eBooks, Audiobooks…etc.

If you are looking for suggested reading see Best Romance Novels Today, Romance Novels on Wiki or Best Romance Stories.

In my opinion, you can’t go wrong with Jane Austen, Nora Roberts, Nicholas Sparks and Georgette Heyer.

4. Read the books at your own pace in 2012 then post the link to your review(s). You don’t need to have a blog, posting your reviews on Goodreads and LibraryThing counts as well.

Here are my choices that you can always see on my blog.

  1. Twilight Saga
  2. Vampire Diaires
  3. Morganville Vampires
  4. Blood Coven
  5. Blue Bloods
  6. Night World
  7. Vampire Academy
  8. House of Night
  9. Love Story by Erich Seagul

A to Z Book Challenge 2012

Technical Stuff
This challenge will run from January 1st, 2012 until December 31st, 2012.
You can join anytime.
If you are blogger, leave the link to your actual post about this challenge.
If you are not a blogger, leave a link to where you will be keeping track of this challenge.

So there are two different ways you can set up your own A-Z challenge.

A – Make a list now of 26 books, picking one for each letter of the alphabet. For example: A – Atonement B- Black Beauty C – The Count of Monte Cristo D – Dances with Dragons etc.


B – The lazy way (how I do it) : Make a list on your blog from A-Z. Throughout the year, as you go along, add the books you are reading to the list. Hope that by the end of the year you have read one book for each letter. Towards the end of the year, you can check and see which letters you are missing and find books to fit.

Since it is really hard to find titles beginning with X, the letter X just needs to be in the title somewhere.

So to join along….
1. Write a blog post about this challenge and whether you are going go with A or B.
2. Add the button to your blog.
3. Attach yourself to the linky.
4. Follow my blog so that you can see when I post the monthly challenge!

A– And then there were none

B-Battle Hymn of the Tiger mother-Amy Chua

C-Canterville Ghost:by Oscar Wilde

D-Digital Fortress: by Dan Brown

E-Eclipse:of Twilight Saga

F-Five little pigs:Agatha Christie

G-Girls that Growl:of Blood Coven

H-Hunted:House of Night series

I-The Initiation and the captive:of Secret Circle


K-Kiss of Death:of Morganville Vampires

L-Love Story by Erich Segal

M-Murder on the Orient Express:Agatha Christie

N-Nightfall:Vampire Diaries(The return trilogy),Night School:Blood Coven

O-One,Two buckle my shoes:Agatha Christie

P-Peril at the end house


R-Revelations:of Blue Bloods series

S-Sleeping Murder

T-The Twilight (Saga):by Stephenie Meyer

U-Ugly Truth:of Diary of a Wimpy Kid,Untamed:of House of night

V-The Van Alen Legacy:of Blue Bloods

W-What Katy Did?:by Susan Coolidge




Eclectic Reader Challenge 2012

The Eclectic Reader Challenge runs from January 1st to December 31st 2012.The aim this challege is to read one book for each of the categories below.


  1. Literary Fiction-The adventures of Huckleberry Finn
  2. Crime/Mystery Fiction-Death on the Nile
  3. Romantic Fiction-Twilight Saga
  4. Historical Fiction-Oliver Twist
  5. Young Adult-Vampire Academy
  6. Fantasy-Morganville Vampires
  7. Science Fiction-Digital fortress
  8. Non Fiction-A night to remember,The diary of a young girl
  9. Horror-The Canterville Ghost
  10. Thriller /Suspense-Harry Potter
  11. Classic-The Adventures of Tom Sawyer
  12. Your favourite genre-Vampire fiction fantasy,Blood Coven

So i find this challenge very interesting and innovative.It allows us to or rather pulls us from one path of reading the same genres and take us to the different path.Do see my reading list each marked with the reading challenge badge or marked with it.Happy reading to all the bookaholics.

Bucket Full of WISHES

Yeah even i have i bucket full of wishes……if not a bucket then atleast a glass full of wishes 🙂

Everyone wants to do some or the other things in life before its too late,so here`s mine,yeah i`ll keep on updating my list because i never know wat all things i might do or add.

  • Jump from a plane(ofcourse with a parachute..otherwise i wont be able to fulfill my rest wishes.

  • Jump from a height in water.But to do this my heart shud be strong which isnt right now.If i try it out now all my organs will come out of fear. 🙂
  • Meet Robert Pattinson,Kristen Stewart,Ian Somerhalder,Paul Wesley,Nina Dobrev.(I told u all i am a die hard fan of vampires)

  • I want to watch the movie Bucket list and Titanic as i havent watched either of these two.(Yeah i know,not watching Titanic is a shame.)
  • I want to be chef.Its on my list as i dont know what i`ll end up being later.

  • I want to learn driving a car.Yeah i can do so the next year when i turn 18.
  • I want to have a big and beautiful wardrobe with all the beautiful and best dresses.
  • All the best vampire novels should be on my shelf.(Yeah i have 98% of them but what abt the rest 2%?)
  • I have a casio/piano and i know how to play many songs ,actually some songs,but i want to learn more and know the knack of playing the piano.
  • Take self-defense classes.It wud be fun and also useful later.
  • Buy a chilli pepper spray.I always plan to buy one but end up doing nothing.
  • I know how to swim,but i left swimming as i suffered from typhoid due to this.But so what when i`ll grow rich i`ll have my personal pool.
  • Oh yeah for a pool i have to be rich because a bungalow with pool is very expensive.So i want to become rich definitely with hard work.
  • I want to visit the temples of South India,they are very famous and breathtaking.
  • Then what abt Maldives? I want to go there also.Its another beautiful island with corals etc.I love beaches but i dont like the hills so much,round and round makes me dizzy at times.
  • I want to visit the Madame Tussauds.
  • Help any organisation namely Goonj,to help the underpriviledged.You cant be happy without helping others.Can you?
  • I want to buy lots of novels and read them and then post their reviews here and get lots of comments and follow-ups.
  • Go on a shopping spree.Am a spendthrift,but still i do save money.So shopping is the best option to blow it all off and also a bookstore.
  • I love camel riding.Whenever i visit Jaipur(in India) i always do camel riding.Scared to death when it rises and sits.But still i love camel riding.
  • I want to learn salsa dance.In one second the dancers are here and in other second they are there.But for that i need a good body figure which i dont have(so wat i`ll be thin in future).So lets put this wish for  later.
  • Skating is another thing i wish to learn.I hope i will fulfill all these wishes.
  • Oh God how did i forget this and didnt put it on the top of this list.I want to witness snowfall.Yeah i know i havent but its not too late.I`ll definitely visit a place at the time of snowfall.
  • Fishing is an awesome thing to do.This is one thing i would definitely want to try out first.
  • Horse-back riding is also a good sport,i hope the horse wudnt mind my weight. 🙂
  • I want to go on a cruise.I went once in Dubai.
  • With the thought of Dubai how can i forget the desert safari.It was awesome and terrifying.So i want to try it out again.
  • I want to visit the Seven Wonders Of the World.
  • Visit the rose garden in Chandigarh,India.
  • I want to visit the Rashtapati Bhavan and the Mughal Garden in New Delhi.


  • I want to learn how to fly kites.
  • On my friend`s reminder let me tell you i want to wear a golden and deep heavy maroon bridal dress on my marriage,with a delicate diamond necklace.I hope i get this dress at the right time. 🙂

Oh God i think the bucket is over-flowing so why not i pen down now and add on more later.Thnks for keeping patience,and do tell me urs to do list.Do leave a comment. 🙂